Why Relationships are Doomed to Fail
Posted: Friday, February 10, 2012
by Jim Murdoch
http://losttomeaningful.com/
You know what its like. You have had three relationships already, pretty sure and solid ones too. You were sure this was it. And you give it your all. And then, Bamm! They’re gone. Just like that! What happened? Why didn’t it last. And when you look back you realize that all three ended in similar fashion.
Or you’ve had several dates of hopefuls. This is it, you think. This one is so nice and good looking, kind and considerate. But then they never call back or they make some lame excuse. Why? Why does this happen repeatedly?
What’s wrong with all of these kinds of relationships? They’re all doomed to failure, that’s what! All these people will never have a successful relationship. Give up trying, you’ll never make it happen.
And why? How do I know that? How can I be so sure? And who am I anyway to be talking like this? Well more about me another time. Suffice it to say that after 31 years of happy marriage to the same woman has taught me a thing or two. So why do these other many, many ,many relationships fail? It’s simple. Because they all start on the wrong foot. Let’s say they all start on the left foot. It’s not the right foot. If it were then all would be right. Right?
Left footers have a wrong perspective. They think their life will be happy when they have the perfect partner. They think he or she will be their completeness. And when it doesn’t turn out that way they begin to make demands in order to shape them into the person they want them to be. Such a relationship can only fail. People weren’t born to be molded by others. Neither were people born to be fulfilled by a relationship with others.
Fulfillment and true happiness can only come from one place and only one person. No its not me. Its the person reading this right now. You! When you look within and create your own joy and be fulfilled in yourself in what you do and what you are, then you will never meet a disastrous relationship, because you never have a need to build yourself up by the personality of another. And you won’t be searching for one either.
Instead you will find enhancement, encouragement and added strength in another. You will find yourself attracted to those who expand what you already are expressing in your life. And together you create an amplification of two divine beings living as one.
OK, so you may be feeling miserable right now and wondering why your world is falling apart and you just can’t grasp what I’m saying here. Then follow these three simple steps in order to help you get on a more positive path. Here we go:
- Make it a daily practice to do your mirror work – look in the mirror and say: You are a perfect being, complete in yourself. You bless others through your completeness. I love you as you are.
- Make this a constant practice – look on everyone in your life and everyone you meet or pass in the street as your equal. They need you as much as you need them.
- Do this once then move on – Write down on a sheet of paper all your hurts from past and present relationships. Now crumple it up and throw it away, or burn it.
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