4 Reasons Why You Will Never Change Your Life
Posted: Saturday, January 23, 2010
by Jim Murdoch
http://losttomeaningful.com/
No matter how hard you try, no matter how much you pay and attend self-help and personal development programs, no matter how much you want to change your life you will NEVER succeed because of these four basic obstacles. Have you ever wondered why, in spite of your great efforts, your life just stays the same? In fact, the more you want to change you have probably noticed your situation getting worse. Why? It's all because of these four stupid, silly little obstacles. Get rid of these obstacles and you will undoubtedly begin racing towards the biggest success of your life.
Fear
Shame
Guilt
Pain
Think of your current predicament. What is really stopping you from reaching your goals and realizing your dreams? It is fear, isn't it? In fact we could summarize all four of these obstacles with just this one fear. You are afraid to step out and do what you know you must do. You are afraid to do something you have never done before. You are allowing this fear to keep you firmly fixed in your current undesirable situation. Fear is the one, big block standing in your way. But what is it exactly you are afraid of?
Shame of failure. That's right. You are afraid of shaming yourself if you should try something and fail. You feel you would be ashamed to face your family and friends after failing to achieve your goals. Perhaps there is some shame in becoming successful because of the things you have been heard saying about the rich and successful. In this case you better start changing your tune and looking for why those people are successful. Maybe you can learn something.
What about guilt? Do you feel guilty pursuing success? Do you feel it isn't your privilege to be successful? Are you allowing the guilt of leaving others behind to stop you from being successful? How are you supposed to be able to help those then if you don't change your life? Won't you then be in a better position to be able to help others in need?
It may not be physical pain which you fear, but the pain of remembering past failure or loss. Have you met with a painful loss and feel you have been disadvantaged? Do you convince yourself that if that hadn't happened you wouldn't be in such a bad state right now? Well you have a choice. Either you sink in your past pain or you rise to create new opportunities to make yourself successful and fulfill those dreams which you have been putting off for so long.
So you see how impossible it is to change your life as long as you allow these four silly obstacles to rob you of your dreams? It does not have to be that way! You can change your life if only you will decide to overcome these little fears, to forget the shame, to reject the guilt and to overcome the pain. Make these the four reasons why you must succeed and you will look back wondering why you hesitated for so long. Go for your dreams!
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Top-level comments on this article: (3 total)Mr. Murdoch's articles are really helpful and insightful. This one is deceptively simple, but well worth the exercise. Simple, but deep.- GThanks Greg. I like that: Simple but deep.Blessings,Jim
Very good article Jim. I have to agree that fear encompasses the other 3, and if that were eliminated, everything else would fall in place.It's the simple things that are usually most effective, isn't it? Simple; not necessarily easy. :)Thanks Joyce for commenting. Fear is nothing other than thoughts. Replace those thoughts and you replace fear. Not easy, but doable.
Jim: While at the bottom of the totem pole, on the first rung of the ladder, I happened to meet a very successful milliionaire and commented to him that his tie did not coordinate with his shirt. Instantly I knew I had said the wrong thing to the leader of this group. Later that day I rehashed what I had said and reasoned that I was trying to bring him down to my low level instead of reaching up so far to touch him. I wanted to be sure he was human and not just a machine in successful clothing. A millionaire can wear anything he wants; he does not need to ask me if his tie coordinates with his shirt. From that one very brief incident, I learned something valuable.Hi Harlan. Do you think that was a reaction of fear because you were challenged by his success?Challenged? Maybe... more in awe of his humanity as a successful businessman. At the same time, disgusted with myself that I had not achieved what he had. I was older than him and had accomplished so much less. The lessons keep coming.Shame? But go easy on yourself. You are now open to change, a very good place to be.
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